Sunday, November 18, 2007
-Problems Vs The Emotional Side!
This is going to an special post that I longing to post since
"problems vs the emotional side" of me and one of my bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn.
Well, sometimes I felt that most problems/emotional feelings happens when something real bad happen. It could be not our fault, and it could be the other party in blame. As I mentioned before, guys sometimes need their own space to be a free bird, but having granting them too much of it will mislead to those quarrels and what-nots. However, girls being girls, will often paused for awhile to be there for their lovely boyfriend and sometime even go that extra mile in helping them with their stuff.
And this bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn of mine, being the nicetest girlfriend she would do any thing to accommodated her boyfriend, however I guess her boyfriend has been really taking her presence for granted and she always need to be there for him and choices were never hers. It's always his way, his choices and
NEVER hers. Guys, please dont treat your girlfriend this way because it will cause them to feel very emotional and they will tends to think and worry a lot. I guess, no one like to be treat like an rag doll, even me!
Bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn sensed it when he suddenly became distant, but she feared mentioning it to him, for she didn't wanna wreck what they had by going into another senseless argument. She did try to probe, but he became somewhat angry; so she didn't dare to bring the issue up again. She just thought that he were just tired and stressed out from work. And when she did try to resolve the conflict/issues-at-hand, nothing was resolved, and he grew to become more distant from her.
She do admit that there were nights when she lie awake, thinking what had gone wrong, there were the tears of frustration and anger, for she was angry that she had allowed 2 persons very much in love to become the state that they are in - They were in love, but cracks were appearing, and they were so cordial and distant to each other. She, being the happy-go-lucky and silly girl that she am, had thought that Love would conquer all... But she failed to stop and evaluate things from another perspective; That perhaps he were so drained out by her and she antics that he didn't know how to handle or what to do anymore.
On top of that, he had pressures at home and at work. She wanted so much for him to be more ambitious, for he said work was no longer enjoyable and he were often bogged down by work.
Im currently feeling quite upset over this issue that my bestie jie AKA Evelyn is suffering. Well, Im not an profound person in many areas, but I've learnt for my past experiences in relationship so I wish to a lil' note to everyone who is reading/visiting my lovely blog! =)
Granted there are the regrets, the laments, the
"should haves", "could haves" and
"would haves"... But like what I used to tell people that needed my listening ear - There is much more to life than the
"should haves", "could haves" and "would haves", and in my case, I think that it does apply - Admittingly, there would have been a lot of things I would and wouldn't do had I known the outcome, but it wouldn't have brought me to where I am today, and I can definitely say that it has made me grown up in certain ways, and TinGz would become a better person for her ownself; and that there isn't a party whose right or wrong in the relationship, for it takes two and whole lotta patience and understanding for things to work!
To me, if I ever encounter a problem in my relationship I would try to find sometime talking to him and getting back all things right again. I know sometimes Im very unreasonable, however my unreasonable action will show that I care. However I know isn't right to through anger on your partner. But me being silly will always stay up all the way up just to have an sms from him, which I feel in some way Im kinda silly. After heaps of conversation in it, I've conclude in my mind; that just let things sail by itself and not to be too encroaching, and I always believe in a day of 24hours there isnt a thing called "not free". Even it will take hours to received an sms/call I'll just wait. After much saying, Im feeling tired of repeating myself, so I'll just let things fall in together in the way they are mend to be.
Admittingly, it has make me stop wondering and pondering of those problems, yet sometimes the very down side of me is getting very emotional very quickly. And it can tell by all this; a phone call;
"hello busy huh?"; replied
yea call you later; then I'll hang down without saying
Good-bye!I don't know about others but to me, if I keep on having heard this I'll feel very frustrated and fed up; that will lead to an cellphone switch off or silent! I admit, I ever did do that alright! Because Im feeling very upset, due to can't I even talk to you for just 5 lovely minutes? I know, if you're very busy at least show up after the busy moment. And all I gotta do is wait, and I kid you not, TinGz waiting patience is getting much more excellent and is reaching the to hill!
Nothing I have, but an excellent patience!
*opps self-denial*Apparently, I might not help out much with the problems that bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn is facing, however I've always urge her not to think so much when you're in a relationship, because being blissfully attached can be sweet and sour at times; there's pros and cons in it. However, it only take you to a step in another life learning, why do we keep having much mistakes in life;because when you have mistakes in life and you learn from it we will never run outta lesson!
Apparently, by having the
"thinking too much" illusion isn't pleasant at all, so I hope that bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn will heed my advice and paused for while if you're feeling tired in life. Sometimes, by pausing a while does helps and it'll do some self-reflection on why all this are happening.
*Wry smiles* I'm here today because I've learnt my mistakes in life and never repeat again; because there's always a reason in life like having able to see the lovely smiles daily. Much sufficient, that people tends to take things for granted and they'll only realise it when such happiness slips away. =)
Relationship taught me so much - patience, honesty, caring, understanding and most importantly, how to love another unconditionally.
Bestie Jie
AKA Evelyn and I had a long conversation the other day, and I merely told her -
"Love would find a way. Indifference would only find excuses."Sometimes we win, and sometimes we lose, that is Life, and it is undeniable.Sometimes love just ain''t enough
I don''t wanna lose you,
I don''t wanna use you
just to have sombody by my side
And I don''t wanna hate you
I don''t wanna take you
But I don''t wanna be the one to cry
That don''t really matter to anyone, anymore
But like a fool I keep losing my place
And I keep seeing you walk through that door
But there''s a danger in loving somebody too much
And its sad when you know it''s your heart you can''t trust
There''s a reason why people don''t stay where they are
Baby sometimes love just ain''t enough
Now I could never change you
I don''t wanna blame you
Baby you don''t have to take the fall
Yes I may have hurt you
But I did not desert you
Maybe I just want to have it all
It makes a sound like thunder
It makes me feel like rain
And like a fool who will never see the truth
I keep thinking something''s gonna change
But there''s a danger in loving somebody too much
And its sad when you know it''s your heart you can''t trust
There''s a reason why people don''t stay where they are
Baby sometimes love just ain''t enough
And there''s no way home
when it''s late at night and you''re all alone
Are there things that you wanted to say
Do you feel me beside you in your bed
there beside you where I used to lay
And there''s a Danger in Loving somebody too much
And it''s sad when you know it''s your heart they can''t touch
There''s a reason why people don''t stay who they are
Cause baby sometimes love just ain''t enough
Baby sometimes love just ain''t enough
*TinGz mugging notes**HeaRts*Labels: Sentimental
Carrie;eirrac: 11/18/2007 11:53:00 AM ♥
