Saturday, March 1, 2008
-The Search Of Happiness... :P
Heys folks, I've decided to post this special
"The Search Of Happiness" post for one of my Bestie to understand what happiness means in her relationship.
And I hope that this blog post will make some sense into her and guide her through her hurdle love life problems... :) I hope that after what she reads over here she will heed my advices and stay happy... :P
Has anyone been stuck in a situation when you want something so badly, so much so that it is within reach, yet you can't get your hands on it?
Let's put it in analogy terms:-
Since I've such a love affair with shoes, let's just say that you saw a really lovely pair of shoes that would really match your all-time fave outfit, and it's at a discounted price and is thus, really affordable... So you decide to try the shoes out and you realise how comfy it is, despite the fact that you are simply just walking on 2 sticks that's enduring your entire body weight...
You decide to buy it, when...
The sales person tells you it's being reserved by someone so you can't have the pair, as it is, unfortunately the last pair in the store...
*Darns*Likewise, when
Love strikes from unknown corners, where it lurks and sneaks up on a person, would you fall hopelessly and expect for the best things ever to happen you, or would you adopt a cautious, wait-and-see approach? Or much worse, push
Love and everything else that comes along with it away?
Everyone has, I am sure, been hurt through the process of looking for
Love, or something similar. I am one of those unfortunate few that have been hurt far too many times that sometimes, to numb the pain and to prevent myself from getting hurting again, I tend to push everything and everyone away, and bottle up the feelings inside. =(
It's sad, but sometimes, I wished that there was a pill for happiness. Like how when a person has a headache, all he/she needs to do is to pop a couple of painkillers, take a nap or rest for a while, and then he/she would get better.
I mean when one is happy, a person can drink themselves silly, or shop until their legs feel weak, or just do really random things.
However, at this point of time, I can only imagine that I have my daily dosage of my happiness pill and I put on the brightest smile before I face the world, kinda like a mask, of sorts.
Be Nice to your partnerIt is very easy in the hurly-burly of modern life and the complex sparring of a day-to-day relationship to forget that we are dealing with a real live human being here and not just someone we bounce off as we go along. It is easy to start to take someone for granted, to think we've thanked them or praised them or said "please", when instead we ignored them, were rude by the guilty sin of omission, disregarded them and generally behaved like they were pond life by default.
To make the relationship go with a zing, you have to go back to square one and start being courteous again in the old-fashioned sense of the word. You have to reintroduce yourselves to each other as respectful, tactful individuals who are going to start again being pleasant, kind, civil and polite. From now on you will say
"please" and
"thank you" no matter how many times a day it is necessary. Be thoughtful. Be complimentary. Give gifts without there being any reason for it. Ask questions to show you are interested in what your partner is saying.
Be solicitous of their health, welfare, dreams, hopes, workload, interests and pleasure. Take time to help them, take time to focus on their needs and wants, take time to just be there for them, not to have to do anything expect listen, show an interest, show that you still love them. Dont allow benign neglect to ruin your relationship.
We treat strangers exceedingly well and usually reserve our best attentions for people we work with. Our partner get missed, lost in the bustle of it all. In fact we should treat them better than anyone else. After all, they are supposed to be the most important person in the world to us. It makes sense to show them this is true.
Remember, never take your happiness for granted, for it takes two whole lot of hearts to keep the relationship burning... :P
Yea, I know isn't easy dealing with relationship thingy, however one gotta be brave to overcome whatever obstacles that is in front of us. For you know which bridges to cross and which bridges not to cross. Finding the right way in happiness is vital! No one in this world, love to be hurt in a relationship, but I guess it gotta do with their most inner feelings for to make them buried all the hurts into the sand and look forward for what god has for us.
On the side note, I hope that Best Jie will really understand what is best for her and to stay happy everyday.... :)
*Woots*Anyways, yesterday for the leaps years of 29 Feb it falls on every 4years so I gotta catch the movie
" The leaps year" real soon. By the way, there isnt much happening for me on the leap 29Feb 2008, as usual rotting and slacking at home. Hurhur!! =)
Have yourself a cheery weekends:)
Labels: Happiness
Carrie;eirrac: 3/01/2008 07:32:00 PM ♥
